When was the last time you’ve had a real, deep, thought moving conversation? One that left you wondering about all sorts of things you hadn’t considered before? One full of ideas, of contradictions, of pro or con arguments? Me? Two days ago. And I want more.
Ah, good conversation – there’s nothing like it, is there? The air of ideas is the only air worth breathing. – Edith Wharton
This past weekend I’ve had the fortune of being surrounded by many people who have challenged me, my opinions and my thoughts. While the feeling at first is quite uncomfortable, as soon as you realize the learning opportunities you are presented with, your mind opens up and starts absorbing information like a sponge. At least that’s what happened to me.
However, I must address the huge difference between plain old mean criticism and denial and a constructive discussion based on proper arguments. As the saying goes: you can’t argue with an idiot, you’ll lose – they’ve had years of experience :). But you definitely learn from someone with different opinions, beliefs and ideas. It’s very important both participants approach the discussion with an open mind. Even if you won’t reach a consensus by the end, you will leave with more understanding of what it’s like to be in the other person’s shoes (and mind).
My challenge to you today is to find a subject you either feel quite strongly about, or don’t have a lot of knowledge of. Then approach this subject with a close friend. Why? Because there is a bond and respect there that will likely prevent insults and promote openness of sharing your own thoughts. You don’t have to spend 3 hours talking about it, just enough for both of you to reach a point where the you’ve accepted both of your opinions.
So, what are you waiting for? Get talking.
Have a eudemonic week!