I feel there is a big stigma associated with quitting. They say quitting is for losers, that if you quit once it will become a habit, but sometimes, it’s not only healthy, it’s the only option.
Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy. ― Robert Tew
I’m not talking about the obvious quit smoking, quit drinking kinda things, but rather something that was bringing you some kind of benefit or joy in the past, but simply does not anymore.
Our brain works all the time, even when we sleep. What does he do all the time? Think about things. Things we like to do, things we haven’t done, things we ought to do. And when we have about a dozen unfinished projects, our brain is really on a roll.
So, quit. Make a conscious decision to stop doing something that you’ve put on hiatus for a long time. Because let’s face it, you won’t get it done. It’s simply another thing your brain needs to worry about. If it’s important enough to you, you can start again, at a later date, after you’ve finished other ventures.
Today I quit a project I started at the beginning of the year. I wanted to do this really artsy collection of one photo per day for 2017. As usual, it started really great, one month in and I was still going strong. But then slowly, I started forgetting to take a picture every day and print it and consequently would feel bad for missing out. Then I had some problems with my phone and couldn’t do it for a whole week. Again, I kept thinking about it. And then I just gave up because I missed all these days. But it kept nagging on my brain, so I said I would start again, because after all, I’d already put in months of effort. Sounds familiar?
I started strong again, missed days again, guilt came back. So I’ve decided to quit. I gave myself permission to give up on this one thing.
And I feel better already.
We shouldn’t quit for quitting sake or because it’s easier. I’ve made the decision that right now this project isn’t bringing me any benefits, it’s simply weighting me down. It’s not the same as stopping to exercise because I’m feeling lazy, for instance.
You should try it. Quit. Think about one thing that isn’t bringing you any gains or happiness at the moment. Something that drains your mental energy and leaves you feeling worse off than when you started. Quit it. Kick it out the door and make more room and time for what’s really important to you.
Have a eudemonic week!